Young couple Kaiser Louren Yves Balaoro and Mizpah Rej Macalagay causes a stir on social media on September 10 for getting wed inside a hospital room in Puerto Princesa City.
The two narrated that they were having their wedding rehearsal on September 9 when Mizpah, 22, who is already on her seventh month of pregnancy, felt a pain in her stomach.
Kaiser, 25, rushed her to the nearest hospital to be checked, but the doctor no longer allowed her to go home because their first child was ready to be born prematurely.
“Magpapa-check up lang sana kami kung bakit sumasakit ‘yong tiyan ko noon. Ayun pala malapit na si baby, nahahawalan na ‘yong kamay niya, nakakapa na ng doktor kaya sabi ko ay ilalabas ko na. Pero hindi ko pa kabuwanan, dapat November pa ako manganganak,” Mizpah said.
At 9 p.m. on the same day, Mizpah gave birth to their first child by caesarian, a baby boy.
Kaiser said that when he knew their September 10 wedding was no longer possible, he teased Mizpah about why not just do it inside her hospital room.
One of their godparents heard the joke and supported him.
Kaiser and Mizpah decided to make their vows even while she was confined and lying on her hospital bed.
She said she also does not want her little baby to have complications in his birth certificate.
“’Yong ninang ko kasi ay galing Manila, nag-joke lang na bakit hindi na lang dito ikasal, puwede naman. Sabihin daw kay mommy ko na puwede naman ituloy ‘yong kasal kasi hinahabol din namin ‘yong sa birth certificate ni baby kasi hindi ba illegitimate kapag hindi pa kasal?” Mizpah said.
At 7 p.m. on September 10, they were married by Pastor Magdaleno Magada Jr.
Only their closest friends who could go were invited to witness their union.
“Parang okay lang na ikinasal kami doon kasi nandoon naman ‘yong pastor at saka legal naman din ‘yon, may papers naman kami. Sabi ko okay na rin ‘yon, para na rin kay baby,” she said.
How they met
Kaiser said that it was a friend in college who helped him meet Mizpah through a social media site while she was taking Hospitality Management (HM) and he was enrolled as an Information Technology (IT) student.
They chatted and exchanged private messages first before they met each other in person.
“Nag-meet kami during studies, kasi sa college nila, may kaibigan ako. Nakita ko si Mizpah sa Facebook kaya tinanong ko sa kaibigan ko na sakto kakilala pala niya. Nag-meet kami sa sports complex,” Kaiser said.
“Doon kasi ako nagjo-jogging lagi kasama yong bestfriend ko tapos pumunta siya ron,” Mizpah said.
That happened two years and three months ago and Kaiser said this length of time as boyfriend and girlfriend was enough to convince them to already start their family.
He works as a purchasing and inventory head while Mizpah had recently worked in one of the malls in the city.
“Napapag-usapan na namin ‘yon dati (settling down) tapos may dumating na blessing kaya natuloy talaga, napagplanuhan ‘yong kasal,” Kaiser said.
Kaiser said that was supposed to be on September 10.
Financial support for baby Sebastian
With their first child named baby “Sebastian”, the couple is more encouraged to work together to be a family.
However, Kaiser said their baby’s premature condition became a challenge that both of them and their families are hurdling.
“Paglabas [ni Sebastian] pina-pump tapos diniretso na sa incubator kaya mga isang araw at 12 hours, in-X-ray na siya at nakita na white na talaga ‘yong lungs. Pero syempre, kasama ang Diyos, ilang araw pagka-x-ray uli, yong lungs meron na pero blurred pa rin. Okay na raw yon, unti-unti na,” Kaiser said.
Improvements have been seen on baby Sebastian, but the young couple can’t help but worry about their expenses.
They worry too that he will lose his life. But Kaiser said it was his parents who assured him that if Sebastian is not meant for them, God would immediately take him and make him an angel.
“Lumalaban talaga si baby kasi nga malikot talaga siya. ‘Yong kilay niya ay inaangat-angat niya rin tapos nagmumulat din siya kaya lang noong nakaraang araw ay tinakpan ‘yong mata niya kasi kailangan ng blue light therapy kasi hindi sya nasisingawan ng araw, maninilaw siya,” Kaiser said.
“Sabi ng mga magulang namin kung ano na ‘yan ay hindi na ‘yan ibinigay, hindi na ‘yan siya pinatagal kung kukunin lang din. Laging sinasabi ng tatay ko na huwag ka panghinaan kasi may Diyos ka,” he said.
Mizpah and Kaiser said because Sebastian is still in the Newborn Intensive Care Unit (NICU), their hospital bills have gone up as they spend between P5,000 to P6,000 per day for his stay and medicine.
He appealed to Mayor Lucilo Bayron for help because Sebastian needs to be on life support for several weeks more.
“Sa mga kaibigan namin at sa mga malapit na kamag-anak o kung sino man na available lalo na kay mayor (Lucilo Bayron) baka puwedeng makahingi ng kaunting tulong para sa aming anak lalo na ngayong kailangan namin kasi hindi puwede matigil ‘yong life support ni baby, kailangan pa na weeks, sana mabilis ‘yong paggaling niya. ‘Yong gamot na kailangan niya sa Manila pa bibilhin,” Kaiser said.
Mizpah and Kaiser said that the support system from their friends and relatives have helped to lessen the stress they feel because of their situation.
Their parents’ support also matters since they are always there.
Mizpah and Kaiser shared their realization that building their own family is not easy, however, the two of them also depends on the power of prayer.
“Noong una, naisip ko na bakit ganoon, parang hindi ako magiging mabuting nanay na nailabas ko siyang ganoon. Hindi ko naalagaan ‘yong sarili ko. Pero okay lang kasi blessing naman si baby sa amin,” Mizpah said.
“Hindi namin tinuturing na problem, ginagawa namin ito as blessing kasi si baby nga lumalaban tapos kami hindi. Kung iisipin mo kasi na problema ‘yong mga dumarating sa buhay mo, manghihina ka lang pero kung iisipin mo na bigay ito ng Diyos, na tatanggapin mo kung ano talaga ang bigay niya, hindi sasakit ang loob mo, hindi ka manghihina, lalo ka lalakas,” Kaiser added.